Make the max queue size and give up time configurable

Today, the maximum number of items in the queue, as well as how long we
keep attempting to send each item, is hard-coded and not changed by end
users.

While they are totally adequate for chasquid's main use cases, it can
still be useful for some users to change them.

So this patch adds two new configuration options for those settings.
They're marked experimental for now, so we can adjust them if needed
after they get more exposure.

Thanks to Lewis Ross-Jones <lewis_r_j@hotmail.com> for suggesting this
improvement, and help with testing it.

etc/chasquid/chasquid.conf

@@ -101,3 +101,18 @@ submission_over_tls_address: ":465"
 # properly.
 # Default: false
 #haproxy_incoming: false
+
+# Maximum number of items in the queue.
+# EXPERIMENTAL - Might change in backwards-incompatible ways.
+# If we have this many items in the queue, we reject new incoming email. Be
+# careful when increasing this, as we keep all items in memory.
+# Default: 200 (but may change in the future).
+#max_queue_items: 200
+
+# How long do we keep retrying sending an email before we give up.
+# EXPERIMENTAL - Might change in backwards-incompatible ways.
+# Once we give up, a DSN will be sent back to the sender.
+# The format is a Go duration string (e.g. "48h" or "360m"; note days are not
+# a supported unit).
+# Default: "20h" (but may change in the future).
+#give_up_send_after: "20h"